Fear and Change

Just a quick one this week as I’m busy hiding from the sun in Gran Canaria. If you doubt this I’ve attached proof that not everybody works the sun:

I promised that today I would chat about how I’ve prepared for the changes that life after university will bring, but I’ve since realised that I’ve not done as well as previously anticipated. As you’ll know, I aim to be honest in this blog and so today is no exception.

I said my goodbyes, spending quality time with each person before I left, taking photos and making memories to take with me. I made plans to have friends stay with me in my new flat, to visit others, of the places I’ll visit alone once I’ve settled in. I’ve ensured I have enough medication to last me a month – this one is important if you’re on regular medication, you do not want to run out before you’ve sorted a new doctor and it’s one less thing to worry about once you get there. I’ve even told my doctor that I’m leaving town so that they’re ready to transfer my notes when the time comes. All these things are useful, and some essential since you’d struggle to move house if you didn’t bother to pack anything, and people would probably be offended if you didn’t even tell them that you were going; but they haven’t made the process easy.

There are times, when despite all of our imagined wisdom we find ourselves drowning in the unknown. We reach a new level and realise that despite our best efforts some things will always be daunting. Change is one of those things. We can prepare ourselves and make it easier, but we are unable to stop it from being a little scary. I’m beginning to wonder if perhaps that is the point… in order to move into something exciting and new you have to step out of what is comfortable and easy and tread blindly into the unknown.

If this is the case why have I bothered writing at all?

To encourage you to take bold steps! Beyond what you know a whole new world of opportunity waits. If you stick to what you can already see, you’re missing out on views higher up the mountain. So do something that scares you today! It doesn’t have to be extravagant: there were times when I was afraid to step outside of my house, stand in a queue, get on a bus or talk to people my age. But by doing a little bit more than we’re comfortable with each day we can change all of that and expand our boundaries! Step into your front drive, get on a bus until the next stop, take a friend along and reward yourselves afterwards.

Most of all remember that things which scare you are not always bad. So take some bold steps and make your life into what you want it to be without being afraid that it won’t work out. I have no idea where this quote comes from but I love it and I want to leave you with this: “Everything you want is on the other side of fear”.

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If you’ve got some spare time I’d love to hear from you. How do you prepare for change? How do you combat your fears? Join the conversation 🙂